In today’s society, pushing ourselves to the point of burnout seems to be fairly standard for men and women. Today we are going to look at what you can do to start healing emotional burnout right away.
Hello, I’m Sarah and thanks for watching this video.
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The statistics show that when it comes to burnout, women are up to 60% more likely to suffer burnout than men and this is largely a hormonal thing, since men have a lot more testosterone. When a woman’s testosterone runs out, she moves on to operate off adrenaline and cortisol, which have negative long term effects on her body. If we truly want to reach our full potential, we need to find a better way of operating than pushing until burnout. And this is speaking as someone who spent a decade in and out of burnout as a lawyer.
So let’s dive right in with my 5 tips for healing emotional burnout:
- Tune Into Your Body
When you are suffering with burnout, taking care of your basic needs and asking for the support you need is even more vital. We can lose perspective of this when we are in the midst of it, but if you listen in to your body and intuition you will hear an inner whisper that says “I can’t do this anymore”. During the worst of my burnout, it was something I screamed out loud several times a week.
Take a moment to tune into your body and ask yourself how well you are really coping? Have you been sleeping and eating well? Drinking enough water? Getting breaks and fresh air? Having a gentle awareness of your body’s basic needs and acknowledging what you are and are not doing will be a great first step to healing.
As I have mentioned earlier, burnout is often caused by operating on cortisol and adrenaline for too long. Cortisol prepares us for fight-or-flight by releasing glucose into the body, so even if we have been able to avoid those sugar munchies, our body is still being flooded with glucose when we are burnt out.
Healing emotional burnout takes a lot more than just a couple of days of rest. We need to meet our basic needs as we have said, but also find a way of reducing the stress hormones in our body by making mindful activities a real priority. Walking in fresh air, meditating and making conscious decisions about our workload can be a great start.
- Say No
Sometimes it takes us reaching the point of burn out, or even realising that we have been in burnout for years, to make us stop and see how much we are committing to in our lives. If looking at your diary makes you want to go straight back up the stairs to bed, you may be over-committing yourself.
It might be that you are saying yes because you don’t want to offend people or let them down, but when you are healing emotional burnout, it is really time to step up and put yourself first. Get really clear about what you can commit to and make a conscious effort to say no to everything else until this becomes easier for you.
As we’ve said, you can’t do everything and telling yourself that you just need to push harder is what leads to overwhelm. Society tends to reward and idolise being busy. My pet hate is the phrase “smash it” as it seems to suggest that we are somehow more worthy if we are destroying our goals. When we are stuck in this place, it is only natural that we find ourselves piling on our plate without stopping to look at the big picture and our vision for our life.
When I work with my clients, we take some time to plan out their visions for the future and get clear on the bigger impact that they want to make in the world. We put aside the need to be busy and look at how the day-to-day activities are making a difference to our family and community.
- Ask For Help
Now is the time to put your pride aside and call in the troops. You need to seriously replenish to recover and start healing emotional burnout and this is going to require support. Asking for help is one of the best things that you can learn to do at this stage, and sometimes this can require embracing your vulnerability and being honest about how exhausted you are.
One Final Word: Prevention Not Cure
Whilst these steps seem simple, the implementation of them may not be easy, especially if you are not used to setting strong boundaries or asking for support. Putting our own needs first can be a challenge for all of us. The ideal is that you can set up your life in a way that you are meeting your needs on a regular basis and setting boundaries to protect those needs. Often this is a self-esteem issue. If you need help recovering from burnout or the implementation of any of these tools, get in touch via my website (link in bio) and we can set up a discovery call today.
I hope you enjoyed this article. I would love to know what do you find harder to implement – saying no or asking for help? Let me know in the comments section below.
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